28th Sunday in Ordinary Time – Oct. 15, 2017

“My friend, how is it that you came in here without a wedding garment?” Today’s Gospel parable is unsettling in several ways. The various images of rejection, mistreatment and violence paint an unpleasant picture. Guests refuse to come to a feast, servants are killed, troops are dispatched. The King continues to try to fill his dinner hall, and then when someone finally does show up, the King throws him out for wearing the wrong clothes. What is going on here? The message would have been a poignant one for his Jewish listeners. As the chosen people, they were the first to receive the “invitation” to share in the kingdom of God. But the chief priests and elders were uninterested in accepting Jesus and His authority; thus they didn’t show up for the feast. But what about those who did come? Something is expected of them as well. Donning a “wedding garment” is like being properly prepared to enter God’s kingdom. Just showing up isn’t enough. Here it’s important to pay attention to the details. The King first calls his poorly dressed guest “friend.” The approach begins with mercy and kindness. But the man gives no defense for himself, and displays no desire to change. It’s as if he doesn’t really care to be there at all. The question this raises for us is whether or not we are “dressed” appropriately. We may hang around the banquet hall—going to church, professing to be Christian—but are we sincere guests of the King of kings? Do we truly accept Christ’s teachings and live by them, or are we just showing up? The splendors of the invitation Christ gives us should not be taken for granted. We are called to share in a royal feast. May we all be grateful guests.
I am writing this article on the feast day of the guardian angels and it is the same day that the horrific mass shooting took place in Las Vegas. Many people question the existence of guardian angels and where they are during horrible, evil events such as the one that took place in Las Vegas. Guardian angels do exist and we each have one from the moment of conception until the moment we leave this earth. However, they do not function the way most people think for they will not physically move us out of harm’s way, rather they are that small voice we hear in our head at times that tries to guide us to the correct decision. Guardian angels are more about protecting our souls than our bodies so that we may join them in heaven someday. Guardian angels are directed by God and like God allow us to practice free will. They only give advice and it is up to us whether we take that advice or ignore it. Sadly, some choose to ignore it, sometimes even to the point of committing evil. This does not mean that God or His angels have abandoned us. They are still present working through the good people that are there to respond in times of tragedy – the first responders, the medical staff and the good Samaritans that instead of fleeing, stay in harm’s way to help those that are injured. Yes, sadly there are evil people and dark times will happen and tragedy will strike but fear not for we never face it alone for as noted above, our guardian angels are with us from the time we are conceived until the time they escort us home to God our Father in heaven where there is never darkness, pain or tragedy every again.
God Bless you and have a wonderful week, Fr. Michael

“The stone the builders rejected has become the
corner stone…” – Matthew 21:42
Jesus was the corner stone and He was rejected by the religious and political leaders of His day, as well as ordinary citizens. Living a stewardship lifestyle may cause you to be “rejected” by others in today’s society. For example, saying grace before a meal in a restaurant may attract some strange looks from some. But to others it is a sign that God is alive and well!

Pope Francis constantly reminds us of the wideness of God’s mercy and its unconditional character. God is always patiently loving His children and opening the doors to His heart. We must, however, freely choose to accept God’s invitation and join in the feast of His love. We desire many things and we have restless hearts. We often attempt to quench our desire with things that are short-lived and shallow. All of us long to be satisfied and at peace. How do we announce to the world, in ways that are convincing and without judgment, that it is really God whom we seek?

Please pray for: Kellie & Kathy Salata, Kelly Chinchar, Jessica, Carol Mangino, Gloria, Daniel Breslin, Stanley, Marie, Bonnie, Helen Traina, Joseph Marrone, Bill Marshall, Anthony, Michael, Denise Gautier, Joseph.

8:30 Bice, Domenico & John DiMatteo by Lorraine & Gary DeRosa
8:30 Blase Coppola by Marie & Mike Nasta
8:30 John Ronald & Mary Trivigno by Mr. & Mrs. Rudi Trivigno
8:30 Sam LaDuca by Mr. & Mrs. Philip Iacono
8:30 Clementine Montenegro by Al & Connie Malagiere
8:30 am   Peter Bange by Ann Bange
5:00 pm   Paul Stendardi by the Family
 8:00 am  For the People of the Parish
10:00  am  Lillian Marone by Mr. & Mrs. William Panagia
12:00  pm  Robert McShera by Mr. & Mrs. Robert Chinchar


It is the best way to ensure our parish receives the support needed for our operating expenses and ministries? eGiving through Parish Giving! We are excited to introduce “Enhanced Stewardship through Electronic Funds Transfer” for your weekly offertory. No more envelopes or last-minute check writing! Electronic giving is safe and easy for you and good stewardship for the parish. Please enroll today by visiting www.icchackensack.com. and click on the logo that is on top of the website. Increased enrollment with Parish Giving will help stabilize our parish finances. There are brochures in the pews or visit Parish Giving at www.parishgiving.org

Our parish benefits greatly from the ads you see on the back of our bulletin. The revenue pays for its printing, which is an important means of communication for the parish. We thank the local businesses that have renewed their ads, as well as the new advertisers who have recently signed on. Please look on the last page of our bulletin each week during the coming months where we highlight a different advertiser with a special ad space as a ‘thank you’ for their support all year long. When you visit a business that advertises in our Faith Formation Program Registration Form[397] bulletin, please let them know that this is where you saw their ad.

Our Lady of the Visitation Parish in Paramus will once again offer the Rainbows program. This program is a weekly support group for children, 1st-8th grades, who are living in single-parent homes or have families that are going through painful transitions. When something significant happens in a family, the entire family is affected. If a parent dies or a divorce occurs, not only do the parents grieve, but the children do also. Because of their age and short life experience, children find it extremely difficult to verbalize those feelings. This program has some very beautiful, sensitive, caring, trained adults who have said “yes” to helping these children put these feelings into words, work through their grief, build a stronger sense of self-esteem, and begin to accept what has taken place in the family. The program is free to any child who needs it. Sessions begin in October. To facilitate the book order, you need to register as soon as possible. Contact Patricia Pattermann at 201-265-3812.


Singers for children’s choir and adult choir.